Center for Women and Families

LGBTQ Myths

Myth. All Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual And Transgender People Can Be Identified By Certain Mannerisms Or Physical Characteristics.
Fact. Only a very small percentage of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people have stereotypic mannerisms and characteristics. As with heterosexuals, homosexuals and transgender people come in many shapes, sizes and different colors. It is fair to say that some heterosexuals portray a variety of the so-called gay stereo typical characteristics.

Myth. Lesbians And Gays Could Be Cured By Having "Good Sex" With A Member Of The Opposite Gender.
Fact. Remember, you cannot cure homosexuality. Many gays and lesbians have had satisfying heterosexual sex in their life time, but most gays and lesbians would never choose to be sexually active with members of the opposite sex and would resent and challenge the idea that heterosexuals have a corner on the market of "good sex".

Myth. You Are Either Heterosexual Or Homosexual. Very Few Are Bisexual.
Fact. The studies of Dr Alfred Kinsey and his associates are most frequently cited on this question. Their data suggests that, in fact, few people are predominately heterosexual or homosexual. Most people fall somewhere along the continuum between these two ends of the scale, and therefore have the capacity to experience both affection and sexual feelings for members of both sexes.

Myth. Gay, Lesbian And Bisexual People Should Not Be Teachers Because They Will Try To Convert Their Students To Their Life Style.
Fact. It is impossible to convert heterosexuals to become homosexuals as it is just as impossible the other way around.
Based on what is known about sexual attraction, this is simply not possible.

Myth. The Majority Of Child Molesters Are Gay Men And Women.
Fact. Statistics have shown that pedophilia or child molestation is perpetrated by mainly heterosexuals.
In fact, over 90% of all reported molestations are carried out by heterosexual males.

Myth. No One Knows What Causes Homosexuality.
Fact. This is a complicated and controversial issue. To date there has been no real conclusive research that shows the causes of either homosexuality, bisexuality or for that matter, heterosexuality. Some believe it is predetermined genetically or hormonally. Others believe that we are all predisposed to all variations of sexual and affectionate behavior and learn our sexual orientation.

Myth. In A Homosexual Relationship, One Partner Usually Plays The Role Of The Husband And The Other Plays The Role Of The Wife.
Fact. This is not necessarily so. Most gay and lesbian couples work to develop relationships based on principles of equality and mutuality where they are loved for who they are and not for the roles they play. This comes back to stereotypical role play. They are usually just two men sharing roles and two women sharing roles.

Myth. One Homosexual Experience As An Adolescent Will Play A Large Part In Determining Whether A Person Will Be Homosexually Orientated As An Adult.
Fact. Many gay and lesbian people have had early heterosexual experiences but identify as gay or lesbian. This can be said the same for many heterosexual people who have had sexual experiences with a person of the same sex but continue to define themselves as heterosexual.
Sexual orientation for most people goes well beyond just sexual acts.

Myth. Homosexuality Does Not Exist In Nature, Therefore It Is Not Natural.
Fact. Historians tell us that homosexuality has existed since the earliest of human societies. Anthropologists report that homosexuals have been a part of every culture.
One study of non-western cultures, reported that 64% of the respondents considered homosexuality as "normal and socially acceptable". It is also a well known fact that same sex behavior is "natural" between animals.

Myth. All Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual And Transgender People Choose To Be That Way.
Fact. The only place where choice seems to come into play is when they decide how they will acknowledge their identity. Choosing if and how to 'come out' and choosing who to tell.